Life is tough. Success is hard. To make it through, you’ve got to find your inner strength and passion. You have to train yourself to watch for opportunities, and seize them effectively if you want to reach a higher level of success and happiness.
And build as many good habits as possible to help you reach your goals and achieve those dreams.
It Begins and Ends with You
What do you think about your life right now?
- Think about the people in it – those who you’re in an intimate relationship with. Is it everything you wanted it to be and hoped it could be?
- What about where you are financially? Does where you stand right now with your finances make you wish things were different?
- Are you hungry for more? Do you wish you were wiser about your choices and decisions?
- What about your job? Are you happy in it, or absolutely miserable? Many people are – but still stay in that job year after year, growing older and becoming even more miserable.
If you dislike any area of your life because it isn’t satisfying, but you stick with it anyway, it means that you’ve settled for less – and grown indifferent to achieving your dreams.
The end of a dream is not it’s death – but learning to live without it!
You’ve given up on the idea that there could be more. That you deserve more. Or that changing things is even worth the effort.
If you dislike an area of your life now, but you don’t change anything about it, you will still dislike that area of your life three months, six months or a year down the road.
You will have lost time and you will have missed the opportunity to make changes during that period.
If you want more out of life and unhappiness sits like a rock in the pit of your stomach, then you need to take steps to make changes.
Physical signs like that are always indicators that something isn’t the way you want it to be – that it needs to be addressed. And ignoring them can lead to emotional complications as the stress weighs ever more heavily on you.
That’s not what you deserve.
It’s not what anyone deserves.
Life is not meant to be endured. It’s meant to be lived. Lived with excitement, energy and enthusiasm – because it’s an adventure if you decide to make it one.
Hurdles To Motivation
Though people are all different, we have one thing in common – roadblocks that get in the way of what we really want from life.
Roadblocks stop some people from ever making a change, but they motivate others to keep on going to find a way to what they want, regardless of the roadblock.
You might have one of these hurdles slowing you down. Or you might experience several. A major roadblock to change is fear. An internal resistance.
Whenever things change, the Resistance throws the spotlight on differences in your new life that will make you afraid.
You’ve got to learn how to beat the Resistance at its own game – and win the battle, even if you’re carrying a knife to a gun fight!
What Holds Us Back?
We’re afraid to leave even a bad job for fear that we won’t like the new one. We’re afraid that we might not fit in as well.
Remember though, that one of the acronyms for fear is False Evidence Appearing Real.
Your fears are usually based on what if myths – that almost always never come to pass. Don’t let fear cause you to sit on the sidelines of change.
Another roadblock that gets in the way is a lack of knowledge.
It’s hard to make changes when you’re not sure exactly how. Maybe you’re venturing into an area where you have little or no experience, or even information.
Remember that what you don’t know can be learned. Use educational resources as your catalyst for change and success. Strive for new levels of insight that you previously didn’t have.
Thinking that you simply can’t add another item to your already full life keeps many people stuck where they are.
Making changes requires work. So many people see the effort as not worth the payoff – and that’s a mistake.
This belief is what keeps you rooted to that job that you hate, to those messy finances, or to that relationship that’s sucking the life right out of you.
Learning better time management skills can be a catalyst for a better life as you clear out things that are a waste of time and make room for what offers the most benefits.
Being comfortable where you are can be a roadblock to motivate you to change.
You’re not 100% happy, but you’re “happy enough.” So you resist any change. But in reality, what this means is that you settled for a life that keeps you locked in your comfort zone.
You’re trading a full life for one that’s half empty. That’s true because if you’re not 100% satisfied, then something is missing. Maybe the very thing that you always wanted, but because you were “happy enough,” you’ve stopped trying to reach it.
So, What Can You Do?
Visualization can be a catalyst for the changes you need to make.
Picture the next level of success in every area of your life – finances, career satisfaction, relationships, health – everything that matters most to you.
Focus on how it could be improved and then make a game plan to get you there. If you block out those thoughts in an effort to stay content, you’ll never know what you could have made out of your life if you’d give it a chance.
Perfection is your enemy!
Wanting everything to be perfect is a huge roadblock to motivation. It’s here where people stall. They want the new situation to be perfect before they attempt any changes.
They want the new job to have everything in place. They don’t want to take the chance that they’ll make a switch and find it’s not what they wanted. These are people who wait for the “perfect” relationship before getting into one.
Perfectionism is the killer of change because what you see in your mind as perfect doesn’t usually translate that way in life. There are no perfect scenarios in a life that’s lived to the fullest.
There are experiences to encounter – and most of them will not be perfect.
And that’s okay.
Perfectionism kills progress. You don’t want to be sitting on the sidelines waiting to get into the game of life while others who are content to have things less than perfect are making huge strides forward!
The fear of failure is what stops too many dreamers in their tracks. People falsely believe that they haven’t failed yet because they haven’t even tried – so they’re safe.
Because whether they realize it or not, they have failed by not even trying. They’re choosing to stay stagnant in a lesser life than what they dreamed of. That, in itself, is a form of failure.
Stop Waiting For Things To Change
When you wait for change rather than actively seeking change, you’ll have to wait for a long time.
You don’t want to be one of those people.
- They wait for the perfect joint venture partner to come to them instead of seeking one out, because that requires putting themselves on the line.
- They wait to see if the person they’re in a relationship with is going to treat them better, rather than speaking up about what they want and deserve.
- They avoid tough situations and tough conversations because they’re waiting for everything to work out on its own.
Change won’t happen on a whim. It’s something that you make happen. You have to find the motivation within yourself to make that change.
And at first, it’s uncomfortable.
Take the discomfort as a compliment. It proves that you’re taking action and improving your life, even in the face of fear or uneasiness.
Your Mind Can Be a Catalyst
You get the life that you think you deserve.
Your mind and thought patterns lead you to make changes, and take action that alters the life you currently have.
Your emotions will then reach a point that you must make a change – because you can no longer accept the way things are.
One emotion could be anger. If the person you’re in a relationship with is unfaithful, it’s often anger over the cheating that drives a change – even if prior bad behaviour didn’t affect you badly enough to consider leaving.
Your subconscious knows what you truly want.
But unfortunately, this true desire becomes buried deep under what you’re willing to settle for. This is why so many people aren’t living a life full of passion.
You can tell if you’re living a life full of passion by asking yourself this question.
“Do I love getting out of bed in the morning?”
If you’re not excited about what you get to do when you get out of bed, that’s a warning sign that you need to change something.
Whatever motivates you will drive you to wake up, ready to start and excel throughout your day. It will drive you to keep going in the face of obstacles. That’s your true passion. (Read my Passion Manifesto here and you’ll realize just how powerful a driver of change it can be!)
You’ll soldier on – even if you’re the only one who believes in your idea. That’s why it’s vital to your success to get into a business or career that you are strongly attached to emotionally, are proud about, and strongly believe in.
What’s Really Keeping You Stuck
Did you ever hear of someone who had a terrible health scare – and it shook them up so badly, they strictly followed the doctor’s orders?
- They eat right.
- They exercise regularly.
- They get enough sleep.
- They quit smoking and drinking, build many new good habits.
Yet before several months were out, they slip right back into their old ways.
The health scare faded. Their resistance to change came face to face with personal responsibility – and lost.
It’s exactly what happens when you try to develop ANY new habit. Willpower and motivation are doomed to fail against your Primal Brain and the internal Resistance… because it’s like bringing a knife to a gun fight!
My book “Knife At A Gun Fight – How To Build Habits That Last a Lifetime” teaches the trick and secret to beating this natural force to develop positive changes that will transform your life.
The hard truth is that in order for any catalyst to motivate you, you’re going to have to accept personal responsibility.
The choices that you make in life are your choices.
You made them because you thought they were the best option at the time. You might have received bad advice that led you to a decision – but in the end, you were the one that made that choice.
You have to accept personal responsibility for what you want to see changed in your life before it can change.
People who place the blame on others for their lot in life don’t ever reach a place where they’re truly happy – regardless of the changes. That’s because they see life as happening to them rather than them making life happen.
Accept the responsibility for your mistakes, for your poor choices, for that awful job you shouldn’t have taken, or for that relationship that was a mess from the start that you wasted too much time on.
Once you accept it, you can move on.
You can free yourself to finally accept catalysts for change. Don’t let the past anchor you to the place where you want to go. You can change things – if you decide to, and learn how to go about it.
Let the mistakes you made in the past become part of your motivation – part of your growing experience.
5 Ways To Find Your Catalyst For Change
To transform your life, you must take stock. Examine every area and look at what’s not working.
1. Understand the things in your life that matter to you. Your catalyst for motivation won’t be the same as someone else’s.
One person may care about buying an expensive house, but it might not matter to you. Your priority might be financial security for your retirement, or more time to spend with your loved ones.
If having time to do what you want to do with creative work is what matters to you, then your catalyst will be whatever action gives you the chance to free your inner artist. It may be something as simple as cutting back on hours with work or finding a different job. It might be taking an art or a writing class.
Whatever it is, your driving force should be something that you truly desire – something that you feel your life would be lacking if you didn’t have it.
2. Accept that you must change things to get what matters to you. Many people are willing to acknowledge what matters to them, but then they balk at making the change.
You won’t get what matters to you without change.
It’s like losing weight. You can’t shed pounds if you stay sedentary, eating copious amounts of calories. You have to be mindful of your movement and intake.
3. Give it the opportunity to happen. For example, if you want to start your own business, but your personal and professional life doesn’t leave you with room to learn business development or to increase your skills, then something has to give.
You have to make room to let the change in. Maybe that means spending time after work or on weekends to educate yourself. It’s a temporary sacrifice for a long-term benefit.
4. Cast your decisions in stone. Be clear, precise and firm in your intention. Write it down. Share it with others. Find a mentor. Don’t let your desire for change remain nothing more than a desire.
By naming it, you’re taking a step toward making it your future reality. Claim what you want for your life. Then make a formidable plan to go after it, step-by-step.
5. Don’t let the size of your dreams throw you off your goal. Some changes really are pretty big. Like moving from your home to live in another country because it’s what you’ve always wanted.
You wouldn’t want to pack up overnight and head out the next morning. You can’t throw away personal responsibility whenever a catalyst happens.
Focus on what you need to do in order to reach that goal sensibly.
If your goal is moving to another country, find a place to live and secure a way to support yourself financially before taking the leap. Those are action steps that you can take that lead to the big change.
Small change is what equals big change and it gets you closer to where you want to be in life. It’s exactly how you form any new habit… by taking mini-steps towards the larger goal.
To learn more about the process, pick up my book, “How To Build New Habits” here: click
As I said earlier:
It’s All Up To You
Think about how often you’ve just accepted your fate – your lot in life.
Have you ever made an action plan to get to a better place?
To have more peaceful relationships by setting boundaries?
To feel the thrill of waking up each morning, ready to lead a life that excites, energizes and fulfills you?
If you’ve been watching time pass by, waiting for a miracle or random good luck to help you change, consider this your wake up call.
It’s time to embrace every change catalyst you stumble over so that years down the road, you’re not still stuck in the sand wondering why life passed you by.
Roar towards the success and joy that you so fully deserve – and will achieve with the right changes.