How To Win – Always

How To Win

“I cried because I had no shoes…
Until I saw a man with no feet”

So much about being a winner is to do with how you think.

We can view a situation, circumstance or event and color it
any way we wish – and though it objectively is the same, the
perspective we give it can differ.

A glass that looks half-empty to a pessimist is seen as being
half-full by an optimist. What matters is that the way you
think about things controls how you feel, how you behave and
how you believe in OTHER things related to it.

Of many winners I’ve met in the course of my life, there are
a few common traits that stand out…

  • Daring to dream
  • Celebrating success
  • Being grateful

There’s a reason so many of us are willing to settle. To
accept a mundane, dreary, routine existence rather than
striving to stand out, excel, WIN at the game of Life.

It is uncomfortable. Unfamiliar. Challenging.

Yes, many of us are afraid to win.

“Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest
fear is that we are powerful beyond measure.
It is our light,
not our darkness that most frightens us. We ask ourselves,
Who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, fabulous?
Actually, who are you not to be?

— Marianne Williamson

Daring to dream, to aim for huge achievements, to break off
the shackles of limiting beliefs to truly follow our hearts
is not easy.

It is scary. Nerve-wracking. Even terrifying.

But it is also infinitely fulfilling… no matter if you ‘win’
or ‘lose’.

Because a winner does not KNOW failure. To a winner, it is
just a temporary setback. One to learn lessons from. To
chalk up to experience. To improve upon – the next time.

“Today, we will do the tough things.
Tomorrow, the impossible ones.
And the day after that, we will perform miracles.”

And that’s why winners celebrate success. Even small ones.
Seemingly trivial ones.

They are the seeds of greater success in the future.

Winners understand the philosophy,

“Aim for the stars, you may reach the rooftops”

More important, and the single biggest trait I’ve observed in
winners, is their constant ability to cherish, value and
respect their accomplishments. Lessons learned in life.

Winners are grateful. Always. For everything.

I can often tell if someone will succeed long-term just by
watching how often they express gratitude for the things they
have, and have attained.

Daring to dream.
Celebrating success.
Being grateful.

Three traits that are the forerunner of success.

No excuses. No explanations. No ‘whats’ or ‘ifs’ or ‘buts’.

Clear, concise and simple.

FEEL like a winner – because you ARE a winner.

Manifest it by making tiny tweaks to the way you THINK.

To complete the quote from Marianne Williamson above:

“You are a child of God. Your playing small does not serve the world.
There is nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other people
won’t feel insecure around you. We are all meant to shine, as
children do.

“We were born to make manifest the glory of God that is within us. It
is not just in some of us; it is in everyone. And as we let our own
light shine, we unconsciously give other people permission to do the
same. As we are liberated from our own fear, our presence automatically
liberates others.”

Go change the world, you WINNER!


5 thoughts on “How To Win – Always”

  1. Dr. Mani,

    Thank you for writing this and for sharing it with everyone. It brought tears to my eyes, and I’m going to bookmark it and read it often when I want some inspiration.

  2. Dr Mani,

    I did not ask or extend words of encouragement
    to you during the terrible event in Mumbai.

    For I know a friend knows another friend’s heart.

    I can only imagine how deeply this event
    have affected you, and made you reflect on
    Life, Business, Success and Passion.

    And today I am very happy to read your post
    with words of healing:-)

    It tells me that in the midst of “chaos”
    you have somehow found peace, awakened
    once again your dreams, and harnessed
    all your courage.

    I know for it shines as you speak through
    the smile of gratitude of young Meghna.

    Like all spiritual warriors and paradigm shifters
    you keep going to WIN!

    Yes I am happy with YOU!

    For the future is in safe hands
    as long as the children dare to smile, question,
    play, and celebrate in a spirit of gratitude.

    May your light keep shining Dr. Mani.

    From your friend

    Joel Bomane from Sunny Sudden France

  3. Being a winner or looser definitely depends on the way you think. There is no argument about it. The thing is our thoughts create our feelings and sometimes people really struggle to break out of the spiral of thinking negatively no matter how many times you read inspiring quotes. Your thoughts are so deeply ingrained that one has to be consciously aware of what one is thinking.

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